Woman-Are You Liberated?

I am liberated? or Do I feel liberated? Sometimes 'Yes' and mostly 'Not'. But of course, my middle class family will and does not appreciate just thoughts of mine.

Most of the mothers and mother-in -laws appreciate any woman who has fought for women's rights, justice and has been nationally and internationally recognized and appreciated (If such woman happen to be from their native or region, she deserves all the credentials) but shall not appreciate if their own daughters or daughters-in-law does so.

Both in my maternal and In-law family the thought process has changed to a some extend. This is again stereotyped one.

Right from dressing to choosing of career is decided by the male members of the family. Though short dresses, strapless dresses and sleeveless dresses worn by cine stars like Kareena, Katrina, Meghana and so on are appreciated and not by own daughters or daughters-in-law. Again, it is no more wonder still one discovers that in some families rules set out for daughters are for daughters-in-law are different. Big lectures are given about our culture, traditions and family norms and beliefs.

But now, I also notice the high women loud speakers (seen often in chudidars and jeans and T-shirts in UK, US and now in India too)give a new look and talk high about the fashion and changing trends.---This is something digestible!!!!

I just want to share this piece of information that I read along ago while doing my PG Diploma in Women's Studies-- Women of our ancestors wore the sacred thread (now only for men), they smoked, indulged in a drink or two, loved sex and flaunted their men and women. My question is not to go back but thing for moment if we women get a chance to go back- are be prepared? Let us for one moment ignore the women of the elite urban class.

Let’s go to our villages, and slums. Do the women get want things for themselves? It might be as simple as wanting to go out see the Taj Mahal with her mother and sister. Or not having to come back home to a drunk husband. Or a lonely house. Or wanting to read a book, watch a movie, sing, dance. But do they? What are they bound by? It comes back to the man – He won’t like it, he won’t let me go with my family, he is my husband, and I cannot leave him. The list of excuses wrapped up into something that we call culture, tradition, reality. Then the women who are the extremists, who will actually put a knife at your throat, yes you, you who likes to go sing karaoke in that sleeveless t-shirt of yours. You, who has male friends, you, who likes to smoke or enjoy a cold beer on a hot day.

I asked the almighty for a safe place like a mother's womb in this world world. Again "Mother is a woman". Modern girls thought and approach has changed to a greater extent. These girls and women want to hold my partner in my arms, in public, without being married-- Is this acceptable by so called "male chauvinistic society" . If it is acceptable, will the "women" accept it? I am sure not all women would agree and accept it.
Live-in Relationship is more heard even in big cities of India, but how many women are accepting it?

It is tough for a woman to follow her heart and desire to stand all odds and prove herself in this world. I salute all those beautiful women, strong, competitive women who have followed their hearts and desires. It takes a lifetime test to prove oneself and to be victorious.

Yes, Women are powerful! they have come a long way of struggle and have cleared the hurdles from the path so, that women of present day can breathe freely, think freely and also raise voice of self. They are legally protected and granted rights. Yet modern women seldom understand their roles, rights and responsibilities. On the one end education is giving them the exposure, but lack of life skills application is agfain putting them in hardship.